Real Reason You Have Fear

I've been thinking about this question a lot lately: "What's the REAL reason we have fear?" Why? Because I've been having more fear than usual. Why? I'm doing things that are new in my business and thus, I'm in unfamiliar territory. You've probably heard these explanations for the root of your fear more than once:
* You're out of your comfort zone
* You need more information
* You fear the unknown
* You lack courage
* You lack focus
* You lack self-confidence

And that's just a short list! While all of those reasons are potentially valid depending upon the situation, I'd like to dig a little deeper, using your fingerprints as our map through fear. Your fingerprints reveal several aspects of your soul, and one of those aspects is your Life Lesson. Your Life Lesson is your blind spot, your gremlin, your nemesis, your "negative tapes." Your Life Lesson could be one or a combination of these issues:
* panic caused by a life out of balance (everything is an *emergency*)
* anxiety making decisions
* not expressing your authentic feelings due to the perceived expectations of others
* sacrificing yourself into burdensome obligation
* lack of clarity about your definition of success
* challenges owning your power in the world
* challenges managing your energy, time and money
* challenges expressing your creativity
* challenges speaking up for your self
* challenges with your family and community (on a life scale)
* challenges finding your passion and dealing with victimization, shame and numbness
* challenges finding your niche due to guilt ("If I succeed, it takes away from others." THAT kind of guilt)
* paralyzing fear of rejection
* trust/surrender/intimacy issues with anything: other people, food, money, etc.

If you look at the above list, are there one or two Life Lessons that really stand out for you? My Life Lesson is "not expressing my authentic feelings due to the perceived expectations of others." Sooooo... now I'm doing new and different things with my business - and what do I fear? You guessed it! I fear what other people think and feel about me. (I recognize I have no control over what others think and feel about me. But it doesn't make my lesson any less painful for the knowing.) If you follow any fear to its natural conclusion, the fear is a painful outcome - humiliation, shame, excommunication, torture, fire, starvation, annihilation, etc. You think I'm kidding? I'm not kidding. THAT'S why we get so afraid about making that important phone call, closing the sale, standing up to our mother or father or our children.

Our Life Lesson is the surface issue that trips us up - it acts, amazingly enough, as a PROTECTION mechanism. What lies below that surface issue is our fear of not surviving. Fear lives in our mid-brain or *reptile brain* and it runs on instinct. All our crocodile brain knows is that if you step into the "Life Lesson Zone," something scary is going to happen.

And then the drama begins. You get distracted, you procrastinate, you have no money, you have no time... The drama is the crocodile brain's way of keeping you from FACING your Life Lesson and hence, learning it. By not facing the Life Lesson, our crocodile brain achieves ITS goal of keeping us stuck. When we learn our Life Lesson, we actualize our Life Purpose.

The Secret Formula They Didn't Teach You in School

I am fascinated by money - what it is, how it operates, how to attract it, save it, invest it, spend it, give it to others and create more of it.

In palmistry, women entrepreneurs' hands reveal, in the hand's simple, straightforward way, the STRUCTURE of money as well as what to do and what NOT to do to have a good relationship with money.

Look at the palm of your hand. The middle finger is divided into three zones. The upper zone represents women business owners' 'system' of money, the middle zone represents the 'management' of money and the bottom zone represents the 'roots' of money.

The upper zone of the middle finger says that money has a system to it. This system may be abstract and invisible at first glance, but it has a system nonetheless.
The lower zone says that money has its roots in the Earth. If you think about it, EVERY TANGIBLE THING WE POSSESS COMES FROM THE EARTH. Your desk, your computer, your clothes, the food you eat, gold, diamonds, etc. - all this bounty comes from the Earth.

The middle zone is where the system of money and the material resources of money combine. Managed properly, women entrepreneurs put money in the bank. Thus, the middle zone of the middle finger is about managing money.

The System of Money (palmistry upper zone): Money is a precise measure of value - it either adds up or it doesn't. Money deals in numbers that can be put on spreadsheets and on profit and loss statements. Money is orderly and therefore, it LOVES order. If women business owners want to attract more money, they need to have structures in place that organize the money that they attract. Structures such as balanced bank accounts, an accountant, a bookkeeper and a SYSTEM for their business. The more women entrepreneurs can create reliable, repeatable systems in their businesses, the more money they will have.

The Management of Money (palmistry middle zone): This is money in the bank - preferably in an account with your name on it! The precision of your money system directly impacts the flow of money in and out of your bank account. As a palmistry expert, I cannot stress this enough.

The Roots of Money (palmistry lower zone): Money is the systematic measuring of the value placed on goods and services. ALL goods and services come, originally, from the root of all roots - Mother Earth. 'Money' measures value - tangible and intangible. The 'root' of money is that which is valuable - things you can touch as well as things you can't. Your inner value system can't be held like a diamond in your hand - but it's critical to your success in business. Your values MUST line up with your actions.
Here are some palmistry formulas that reveal the STRUCTURE of money:

NOTE:
Formula Key: Upper Finger Zone = System; Middle Finger Zone = Management; Bottom Finger Zone = Resources
Excellent System + Excellent Management + Excellent Resources (your inner values, knowledge, desire, passion, focus, additional money) = $$$$
Some System + Some Management + Some Resources = some $$
No System + No Resources + No Management = what money?
Here's another way to play with our formula: a good system plus solid values equals money in the bank.

For many women entrepreneurs that I coach, the SYSTEM seems to be the missing piece. Most women business owners are keenly aware of their bank account status because it's a physical reality. But the necessary systems to honor their inner values often get left in the dust. Why? Because they're not in our face every day, demanding our attention.

Spirituality and Business: 3 Powerful Tips For Unleashing Your Intuition

If you really want to know "the secret," access your business creativity and live your Life Purpose, there’s one jewel in your treasure chest you must dig out, polish up and wear proudly - the gem is your intuition. Without it, you are likely to be confused and looking to others for your own answers.



Now, that being said, it's perfectly good and necessary to seek out spirituality and business knowledge from others. However, there is a difference between being a workshop junkie and being a truth seeker. The workshop junkie looks for the next quick fix of temporary, adrenaline-induced inspiration (quick to wear off), while the truth seeker looks within and asks, "Hey you, what do you really want to study and learn about next?" She then finds her next step - whether it be a new relationship, an enlightening book, a tele-class or a workshop (wisdom lasts a lifetime).



What makes the difference between these two kinds of women entrepreneurs? One trusts their intuition and the other doesn't. So, you may be asking, how do I TRUST my intuition more?



Here are three powerful tips for unleashing your intuition that I've discovered in my almost ten years experience as a hand analyst/palmist, and spirituality and business coach.



Tip #1: Trust the FIRST impression that comes.

Your impression could be a vision (psychic/clairvoyant), a disembodied voice (clairaudient), a gut feeling (intuition/kinesthetic response), or a simple �~knowing’ that without explanation, forethought or planning, �~flashes’ into your mind.



With my visual psychic/clairvoyant ability, I see imagery either "inside" my mind or "outside" my mind as if on an invisible movie screen. For example, many years ago, I was at a friend's party giving short palm readings to the guests. As one woman sat down in front of me, I saw twelve angels around her. The angels weren't visible in the way that she was �" I saw them energetically and could feel their energy in the physical space with us. Curious and a wee bit nervous, I said, "Are you aware that you have twelve angels walking around with you?" She said, cool as a cucumber, "Oh, yes," and then proceeded to tell me some of their names!




Tip #2: Ask your heart for spirituality and business intuition.

Close your eyes and put your right hand over your heart. Breathe in and out slowly, feeling the rhythm of your heart beat. Then quietly ask your heart, "Heart, what do you want right now?" Since your heart processes emotion, NOT thoughts, it will usually respond with a simple, one- or two-word "feeling" answer such as "love," "forgiveness," "patience," "action," etc. You will probably hear these answers in your head, in your own voice.



Usually my heart answers, "I want peace and joy." However tonight, while writing this article, my heart gave me the longest answer ever. My heart said, "Beth, stop pushing yourself. I want you to be kind and gentle to yourself. Take care of yourself and do those things that make you feel pretty and happy." Pretty and happy? Never got that one before. Wow, I guess I have my homework!



Tip #3: Build your self-esteem.

In her book, Anatomy Of The Spirit, the great energy medicine expert, Caroline Myss wrote, "How we feel about ourselves, whether we respect ourselves, determines the quality of our life, our capacity to succeed in business, relationships, healing, and intuitive skills [emphasis mine]. Self-understanding and acceptance, the bond we form with ourselves, is in many ways the most crucial spiritual challenge we face. In truth, if we do not like ourselves, we will be incapable of making healthy decisions. Instead, we will direct our personal power for decision-making into the hands of someone else. Someone whom we want to impress or someone before whom we think we must weaken ourselves to gain physical security. People who have a low sense of self-esteem attract relationships and occupational situations that reflect and reinforce this weakness." (This lack of self-esteem is the #1 reason why women entrepreneurs don't use their intuition.)



After reading thousands of hands, I believe that the "Life Lesson" of humanity involves self-esteem issues. If you doubt yourself, how are you going to trust something as subtle, fast and laser sharp as your intuition? Having good self-esteem is vital to harnessing the power of your intuition. And here's the catch: If you ask and don't listen, your intuitive awareness may go into hibernation. If you ask and listen, but don't ACT, you create stagnation, procrastination and all sorts of spirituality and business

Women Business Owners, Build Your Self-Esteem and Deepen Your Confidence

After reading thousands of hands in the hand analysis (non-predictive palmistry) business, I would say the "Life Lesson" of humanity is self-esteem issues. If you doubt yourself, how are you going to trust something as subtle, fast and laser sharp as your intuition for making business decisions?



Having good self-esteem is vital to harnessing the power of your intuition in business. And here's the catch: If women business owners ask for help from their intuition and don't listen, their intuitive awareness may go into hibernation. If you ask and listen, but don't ACT, then you create stagnation, procrastination and all sorts of challenges.



Here are three quick tips, learned over years of palm reading, for women business owners to build their self-esteem and deepen their confidence in their inner guidance:



Spirituality and Business Tip #1: Delete all non-essential email for one week.

Answer only those emails that are personal or business related. You don't have to unsubscribe from everything or do anything drastic. Just cut out the noise for one week.

Notice your discomfort in deleting your non-essential email. (I receive hundreds of emails per day. Only 50 are business emails that need responses and by responding to those emails, I actually ADD efficiency to my life.) Notice if you feel anxious that you are going to miss something. Notice if you can't do it this week and want to put it off to next week. Who REALLY has the answers to your life? You or a message in an electronic box?



Spirituality and Business Tip #2: Don't do anything - and I do mean anything - that you don't want to do.

This is different from not doing something because it's uncomfortable or because you are scared. There is a fine distinction here. If you don't want to do something, you know it in every cell of your body. BUT you may be tempted to do it anyway in order to: avoid someone's wrath or criticism, be pleasing, get your way, manipulate someone or get revenge. Just to name some of the many methods of self-betrayal that I see in my palmistry practice.



Spirituality and Business Tip #3: Make commitments to your self that you can keep.

As a palmistry expert, I recommend that instead of saying, "I'm going to start working out five days a week, start writing for two hours every day and start organizing all my paperwork every week," why not commit to: "I'm going to move my body twice a week in a way that is pleasurable to me. I will write five minutes on Friday and build upon that. I will hire someone to organize my paperwork." Many women business owners in my palm reading business have learned from this tip. By making commitments you can keep, you build your self-esteem, and hence, your faith in yourself and in your intuition in making business decisions.